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How to Have a Good Fight

Round One: Basic Facts About Fights Most couples don‘t really fight until after they marry, so they‘re inexperienced in dealing with strife. The reason for this is relatively simple. Everything before the wedding is voluntary.

But after we say, “I do,“ everything is compulsory. Before marriage, we aren‘t obligated to deal with conflict. We can simply walk away. Afterward, however, honoring our commitment to one another involves staying and working through differences. Another fact about fights is that most aren‘t fair; therefore no one wins…both lose. In many marital conflicts, the only rule is that there are no rules.

Both spouses feel free to use whatever strategy they choose. And, unfortunately, the choices are often unbiblical, dirty, and destructive.

Round Two: Rules to Fight By Ephesians 4 draws out seven rules that will help husbands and wives wage a clean, fair fight:

1. Be committed to Honesty and Mutual Respect. Therefore, laying aside falsehood, speak truth, each one of you, with his neighbor, for we are members of one another. (v. 25)

2. Make Sure Your Weapons Aren‘t Deadly Be angry, and yet do not sin. (v. 26a) To be angry without sinning, we need to avoid three deadly tactics:

* Rejecting instead of reproving, and

* using gross exaggerations like “always“ or “never“.

* Attacking the person instead of the problem.

Each of these only intensifies the hurt, clouds the issue, and provokes the other‘s anger.

3. Agree together That the Time is Right Do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity. (Eph. 4:26b-27).

4. Be Ready with a Positive Solution Soon after taking a Swing But rather let him labor, performing with his own hands what is good, in order that he may have something to share with him who has need. (v. 28b) 5. Watch Your Words…Guard Your Tone Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. (vv. 29-30) Tactfulness is an approach to another human being which involves being sincere and open in communication while at the same time showing respect for the other person‘s feelings and taking care not to hurt him unnecessarily.

--Family Communication, Sven Wahlroos 5. Don‘t Swing at Your Mate in Public Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. (v. 31) 6. When It‘s Over, Help Clean up the Mess And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. (v. 32)

This verse spells out three important bandages needed at the end of any fight:



* Kindness

* Tenderness

* Forgiveness

Round Three:The way to stop most fights is actually very simple. When you are wrong, admit it. All it takes is three monosyllabic words, “I am wrong,“ or, “You are right.“ It‘s not complicated, but it isn‘t easy either.

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